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Share a piece of Your Heart

Share a Piece of Your Heart

Have you ever been lost for words? A friend shares her heart, her marriage is falling apart, her son has cancer or she has cancer or a chronic illness and feels like she can’t go on any longer. She wants to know where God is. Does He still love her? At moment she’s not feeling loved by God. Rather she feels more like He has left her and abandoned her. Despite all of the prayers, He is silent.

How do you encourage? She’s seeking God and seemingly receiving no answers. Telling her God has a purpose isn’t enough for her. She’s in a hard place, and your words are insufficient.

I think we have all can relate to either of these places.

We sincerely mean well with the truths we share. We want to say something. We want to agree that it’s not fair, and that His perceived inaction is wrong, and she’s right. We cry with her, we love on her. We stomp our feet and scream with her. It’s not fair.

I have been in this place. A place where I’m lost for words.

Truth is, we won’t have all the answers for her. But we can walk with her, point her to the Lord and pray for her. Pray with her. The One who holds her life so dear does.

Remind her she is loved. Perfectly by God. Deeply by you. Remind her God will not stay silent.

When my mom was diagnosed for the third time with breast cancer, I remember fighting with the Lord, wondering if He heard my heart’s cry. He was silent. It felt like an eternity. Then His still, small voice spoke to my heart. Just like that. It wasn’t auditable. It was just a peace that stirred my heart that He was in control. He would help me handle whatever was next. God doesn’t promise easy. He promises He will NEVER leave us or forsake us. (Hebrews 13:5)

Suffering is hard. Gut-wrenching hard. We would all choose not to suffer. But life doesn’t give us that just because we read our Bible, do nice things, stay honest. Walking with the Lord is a free gift giving by God through Jesus’ death on the cross; it’s our way home to Him. Our journey home will consist of happy times as well as hard painful times.

We want to go back to simpler times, but maybe God can’t grow us there. Read this scripture, and tell me what you think.

1 Peter 5:10

(NLT) In his kindness God called you to share in his eternal glory by means of Christ Jesus. So after you have suffered a little while, he will restore, support, and strengthen you, and he will place you on a firm foundation

(KJV) But the God of all grace, who hath called us unto his eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after that ye have suffered a while, make you perfect, stablish, strengthen, settle you.

I keep coming across this verse. God in His goodness, yes His goodness, reminds us that through Him these things are possible. He will carry us, restore us, and give us courage to face the trial. Then when we can’t bear another step, He will settle us. He will give us hope again.

In Exodus 33; 14 God said to Moses, “My Presence will go with you, and I will give you rest. “

We cannot share our hope without sharing what God has done in our life. Our testimony. Don’t be afraid to share the hard stuff. It’s when we are open and honest about our struggles the Lord can use us in ways that will reach another soul’s heart and reap eternal rewards. That’s when we can relate to her struggle. That’s where we are used to encourage her through the storm she is facing. It’s a blessing to share our shining moments, but what this hurting world needs is to see God has met us in the messy, ugly places. And He has restored us. He hasn’t left us. He is faithful even when we are faithless.

“If we are faithless, He remains faithful; He cannot deny Himself.” 2 Timothy 1:13 (NKJV)

We all fail. Trust when it doesn’t make sense. Believing His plan is better. Surrender to His will. Yield to His plan and purpose, all the while believing His promises are for us!

Share with me why you trust Him through the storm on my Facebook page. I would love to hear your story of how God meet you sustained you, strengthen you, carried you and then settled you!

https://www.facebook.com/pages/A-purpose-and-a-promise/492684144200965

“And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.” Romans 8:28 (NASB)

Holding on to all His promises,

Tammie

 

 

 

 

 

 

Am I Sulking or Praying?

Do you ever find that your prayers look more like a long, drawn-out list of all the things wrong with your little world? Sometimes I find myself sulking and whining instead of praying to the Lord. Asking Him to just make the issue I’m facing go away. Instead of asking Him to resolve it and to teach me how to navigate through it, I sulk and whine about it. Wondering when I will get the answers and if I can accept what His answer will be. Will I step out in faith and trust Him? Will I have the confidence to allow my faith to be seen even when I don’t know the outcome? When I’m focused on me, I am afraid to step out in faith and believe He will complete what He has started in me.

The beauty comes when we stop looking at ourselves and start focusing on Him.  Do you, like me, tend to worry about things that are out of your control? Do you ever feel you might have the confidence to handle this one on your own, only to realize that you don’t?  One of the things I love about God is that He will wait for us.  As I sit and whine or pout about my troubles, He is there the whole time, but if I am not sincerely bringing my cares to Him through prayer, I find my heart is not humble before the Lord. He knows the outcome from the beginning to the end. Even as I fret, He knows and gives me His word to remind me where I need to lay all my doubts…

“In quietness and confidence will be your strength…” Isaiah 30:15

He’s not telling me to be the one to fix it. He is not saying I am confident in who I am or my own strength. He is saying in quietness and confidence in Me, trust Me and wait patiently on Me. In quietness – prayerfully without whining. In confidence – in Him and His faithfulness. Being confident that He, the Creator of me, is working on my behalf to complete what I started in you. He never said pain free. He never said easy. Here He is telling me “in quietness and confidence shall be your strength”.  Trusting in Him is from where I draw my confidence, then I will have strength to bear whatever lot I am to face.  My strength is in knowing God has got this. He will lead me and guide me.

Looking at how and what we pray will help us remember prayer life isn’t approaching God as a genie in a bottle. Our prayers are not wish lists or demands for God to fix the things or people in our life. Prayer is for me to surrender the areas in my life that I’m holding on too tight. The areas that I need to grow and become more like Jesus. The areas I need to trust more and have faith that His plan  is perfect.

Prayers hold me accountable to trust God as I lay things at the feet of Jesus. What I am doing is surrendering to Jesus and trusting whatever He chooses to do or not to do. When I sulk instead of pray, I’m not really giving it to Him. I’m holding on to it. I’m saying, “Lord it’s not fair! Why me? Why this?” When I accept that I need to go to Him with all the details of my life, I am allowing my faith in the truth I believe in to play out. That’s when I see Him work. The prayer may or may not be answered they way I want, but while I’m in prayer I know I’m surrendering to Him that thing, that thorn in my side, that heartache that I just can’t bear one more day.

So this moment I choose to surrender. I choose to pray and live out my faith because when I do, I Have His perfect peace.

“He will keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on You because he trusts in You.” Isaiah 26:3 

“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made know to God and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7   

His divine power has granted to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of him who called us to his own glory and excellence.”  2 Peter 1:3

As we go about our day, let’s lift each other up in prayer that we will surrender whatever we are facing today with assurance in Who we have by our side and trust His plan, even when it’s hard.

God bless, xo,

Tammie